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Grounding exercises
Most people with borderline personality disorder (BPD) can benefit from grounding exercises. These exercises are helpful during dissociation, panic, strong impulsive urges, flashbacks, and intense emotional distress. Learn and practice one or two of these techniques to use when you are in a tough spot.
What Are Grounding Exercises?
Grounding exercises are designed to help you focus your...
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Is There a Link Between Borderline Personality and...
Question: Is There a Link Between Borderline Personality and Lying?
My sister was diagnosed with borderline personality disorder last year, at age 19. We have a really difficult relationship, and sometimes I feel like interacting with her is just not worth the trouble. For example, she lies all the time. I have caught her lying on too many occasions to count, and she always makes excuses....
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10 Healthy Coping Skills for Borderline...
When you are having an intense emotion, it can be hard to know what to do. Unfortunately, many people with BPD turn to unhealthy behaviors in an attempt to cope with emotional pain (e.g., self-harm, substance use, or aggression). Want to replace unhealthy habits with new, healthier skills? Try some of the coping skills listed below.
1. Play Music
Play music that creates an emotion that is...
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Bipolar and Borderline Personality Disorder
Are bipolar and borderline personality disorder related? Borderline personality disorder (BPD)has been a controversial diagnosis since it was first recognized in the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders in 1980. One controversy that still has not been resolved is whether BPD is actually just a variation of bipolar disorder.
How are Bipolar and Borderline Personality Disorder...
“It is impossible to live without failing at something. Unless you live so...”
– J.K. Rowling (via eloquencemeaning)
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How and Why Do Those With Borderline Personality...
People with Borderline Personality Disorder sometimes engage in acts of self harm. These acts of self harm are wide ranging; they’re also dramatic and startling in many cases. These behaviors include:
Blunt force trauma: This type of self harm includes banging one’s head on a hard surface, punching oneself, and using a hammer or other tool to inflict damage and pain to the body.
Cutting: This is...
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Creative People and Self-Harm for Emotional...
Recently teen actress and singer-songwriter Demi Lovato entered treatment for “emotional and physical issues” – which reportedly include self-harm in the form of cutting.
According to a news report, “People close to the 18-year-old star say she struggled with eating disorders and self-mutilation before her breakthrough [Disney] role.” [From Demi Lovato’s crisis shows the risks of teen...
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What can I do to stop self-harming?
What can I do to stop self-harming?
The single most important thing to remember is that you have choices: stopping self-injury can begin now.
Knowledge is power. Gather as much information as possible about your own behaviour. Keep notes of what is going on when you feel the need to harm yourself: over a period of time you can identify specific thoughts which come up. It’s also useful to...
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Another list of things to do instead of self...
1. Exercise 2. Putting on fake tattoos 3. Drawing on yourself in red marker (make sure it’s washable!) 4. Scribbling on sheets an sheets of paper 5. Writing (poetry, stories, journal, etc.) 6. Cuddling with a stuffed toy 7. Being with other people 8. Watching a favorite TV show (preferably a comedy) 9. Posting on web boards, and answering others’ posts 10. Thinking about how I...
“People have scars. In all sorts of unexpected places. Like secret roadmaps of...”
– Meredith Grey (via themagnifique)
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Quotes on dealing with Emotional Pain
Quotes on dealing with Emotional Pain
Tell your heart that the fear of suffering is worse than the suffering itself. – Paulo Coelho
Pain is inevitable, Suffering is optional. – Buddhist proverb
It is not death or pain that is to be dreaded, but the fear of pain or death. – Epictetus
Your pain is the breaking of the shell that encloses your understanding. Much of your pain is self-chosen. It is...
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Creative Suicide BY All that's left
I stitch myself one piece at a time that’s what I’ve done for all my life. I’ve stitched my life thus far and I am fine. Whoa slow down I think I’m going to fast again. Whoa writing my words with the vengeance of someone who wants to run away. So I: Replace the razor with my pen The noose becomes my thoughts My words the pills swallow em down swallow em down. Replace the...
“No matter how many mistakes you make or how slow you progress, you are still way...”
– Unknown (via creatingaquietmind)
quandary eyes.: “Depression is humiliating. It... →
“Depression is humiliating. It turns intelligent, kind people into zombies who can’t wash a dish or change their socks. It affects the ability to think clearly, to feel anything, to ascribe value to your children, your lifelong passions, your relative good fortune. It scoops out your normal…
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Borderline Personality Disorder Facts
Borderline Personality Disorder Facts
Borderline personality disorder is also known as emotional regulation disorder (ERD).¹
ERD is a debilitating biological disorder.
2% of adults have this disorder.
20% present in psychiatric hospitals.
11% in outpatient clinics.
69% to 75% exhibit self-destructive behaviors such as self-mutilation, chemical dependency, eating disorders and suicide...
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PTSD and BPD
PTSD and borderline personality disorder (or BPD) commonly co-occur. BPD has been receiving increased attention within the media over the years. It has been featured in movies (for example, Girl Interrupted), as well as articles in the New York Times and popular magazines, such as O Magazine.
In addition, it has been found that many individuals with PTSD also exhibit BPD, and conversely,...
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BPD Signs
Are you worried that your loved one has borderline personality disorder (BPD)? Only a licensed mental health professional can make a reliable diagnosis, but it helps to be educated about the disorder and to know what to look for. While some of the symptoms of BPD are not generally observable to others (such as feelings of emptiness), others are associated with observable behaviors. So you...
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Living in the past
i’ve been living in a dream world
where the present is the yesteryears
the future simply doesn’t exist
and nothing is as it commonly appears
the past has been vacant for quite some time
but yet it rears it’s ugly head
in the most inconvenient of times
leaves me feeling lost and dead
the past is a horrible place to live
but i live there everyday
my present means...
cystkitten asked: This isn't a question much, but I just wanted to say thank you so much for posting up stuff about BPD. Being bpd myself is a daily struggle and it's hard on me all the time. One day I hope to be able to manage it effectively. Keep up the good work. <3
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Living with BPD
Receiving a diagnosis of borderline personality disorder (BPD) may seem devastating. There’s a lot of confusion about what BPD really means and how it’s actually treated. Along with misunderstanding, there’s also stigma. This can make a person feel even more alone. However, BPD actually affects about two percent of the population. That’s more people than have bipolar disorder orschizophrenia. And...
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Characteristics of Borderline Personality Disorder
Individuals with Borderline Personality Disorder make frantic efforts to avoid real or imagined abandonment. The perception of impending separation or rejection, or the loss of external structure, can lead to profound changes in self-image, affect, cognition, and behavior. These individuals are very sensitive to environmental circumstances. They experience intense abandonment fears and...
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Symptoms of Borderline personality disorder
The main feature of borderline personality disorder (BPD) is a pervasive pattern of instability in interpersonal relationships, self-image and emotions. People with borderline personality disorder are also usually very impulsive.
This disorder occurs in most by early adulthood. The unstable pattern of interacting with others has persisted for years and is usually closely related to the person’s...
rivenwings asked: Can you post signs and symptoms of Borderline Personality Disorder?
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Mental Influenza: Borderline Personality Disorder...
For someone was has been diagnosed with Borderline Personality Disorder, it can take a long time to recover from the anaphylactic shock of raging, damaging emotions that are coursing through our blood when we experience an attack on ourselves. During this time many physical symptoms of post-rage illness are experienced and this I like to call “mental influenza.”
Even though one can have much...
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Coming out of the Borderline Personality Disorder...
Six years ago I was officially diagnosed by a psychiatrist in a psychiatric hospital as having…drum roll please…BORDERLINE PERSONALITY DISORDER. He said it to me in the same way he would announce he had a plague of rats infest his kitchen, discovered I had a sexually transmitted disease or that he had just found out I supported Tea Party candidate Sarah Palin. It was delivered with revulsion,...
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Borderline Personality Disorder: The Freedom of...
My life started to give me much needed and valuable freedom of choice when I finally put major emotional, cognitive, behavioural and physical boundaries in place. Previous to that I was forever delving into people’s private lives, hemorrhaging at emotional paper cuts, having concrete, rigid and inflexible ideas on everything and having anger management issues at lampposts and letterboxes.
Other...
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Borderline Personality Disorder: Getting Fired...
Over the years, I’ve been fired, resigned or walked out (before I was pushed) on more jobs than there are symptoms of Borderline Personality Disorder. I never understood why this was happening to me and I always thought it was the company’s fault, the other employees fault or that the Universe hated me.
There was always a honeymoon period where I fitted in for a couple of months, then came...
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Disqualifying cognitive distortions
Every twisted thought and distorted emotion must be held up to the full light of day and examined in detail. If it’s not the pure unvarnished truth, then you reject that thought because it’s a cognitive distortion.
So let’s look at the cognitive distortions that could have happened in my mind after my car accident in New Zealand. Let’s expose them for the imposters they are and banish them our...
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17 cognitive distortions AND 4 tactics for dealing...
Here are 17 cognitive distortions that result from erroneous assumptions and dysfunctional thinking:
Mind reading: You assume that you know what people think without having sufficient evidence of their thoughts. “He thinks I’m a loser.”
Fortune telling: You predict the future—that things will get worse or that there is danger ahead. “I’ll fail that exam”...
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Dealing with slip ups
Dealing with slip ups
Slip ups, unfortunately, are one of those things - the majority of people who decide to stop self harming will slip up at some point. It sounds depressing, I know, especially when you’ve put all that effort into stopping in the first place - it makes you wonder why bother. And that’s where you need to stop and think about what you’re feeling.
Self harm...
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How to stop self harming
Reducing and Stopping Self Harm
The decision to reduce or stop your self harming can be a very hard one to make. This section is designed to help you think about why you self harm and deal with those issues in order to help you reduce or stop your self harming. Deciding to stop self harming can feel like a very lonely decision. Everyone’s glad that you’re going to stop, but at the same...
Why do I cut? →
msaeastman:
iwalktheborderline:
beyond-crazy:
[X] - to feel alive
[X] - to punish myself
[ ] - to feel numb
[X] - to be in control
[X] - forget emotional pain
[X] - release anger
[X] - relieve stress
[X] - release sadness
[X] - to feel calm
[ ] - to get noticed
[X] - to feel something other than emotions
[ ] - it’s a “high”
[ ] - to fit in
[ ] - all of my friends do it
...
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A whole new me
changing your ingrained existence is not as easy as it seems i come to it with much resistance and think in bitter extremes this is all i’ve ever known this is who i’ve become what’s to come is the unknown but i must succumb for my future’s sake for the sake of staying alive in order not to break so i must sit back and contrive i need a bulletproof identity to ward off the...
