September 2011
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Daily Strength →
I’ve been a member of this site since 2007, it is one of the best sites for forums and chatting and advice about any health problem you can imagine. There’s lots of self-injury pages, lots of borderline, anorexia and bulimia, well…like i said, there’s just so much help there to be had. It really is an amazing site and it helped me through a lot of really dark times. Check...
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Prognosis for Borderline Personality in Teenagers
There is good news for parents: research is showing that the prognosis for borderline personality in teenagers is excellent. In the past, experts believed that borderline personality disorder (BPD) was a life-long disorder that was unlikely to respond to treatment. In the past two decades, though, a number of studies have shown that recovery from BPD is not only possible, but likely, especially...
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Intro to Causes of BPD
The development of borderline personality disorder (BPD) is complex; there are likely a variety of borderline personality disorder causes. Most experts believe that BPD develops as a result of biological, genetic and environmental factors. The factors that may cause BPD are discussed below. However, it is important to keep in mind that the exact causes of BPD are not known yet. Right now these are...
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Adult ADHD – a Misunderstood Potential
Adult ADHD – a Misunderstood Potential
ADHD (Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder) and ADD (Attention Deficit Disorder) have been highly publicized conditions in the last 10 years. Most of the talk and research about ADHD has been directed towards the childhood version with nothing much more than a passing mention of adult ADHD. This is a real oversight as most of these children carry their...
90 days cut free!!!
August 2011
152 posts
So you want to kill yourself? Because noone cares...
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“Victims often believe they are to blame for being sexually abused. Many adult...”
– The Courage to Heal: A Guide for Women Survivors of Child Sexual Abuse by Ellen Bass & Laura Davis (via healingquotes)
Always remember to BREATHE!!!
Sorry I haven't been posting lately, I've been...
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“life is a game, play it, life is precious, do not destroy it”
– mother theresa
“Courage does not always roar. Sometimes it is a quiet voice at the end of the...”
Learning to Live Without Self-Harm
Learning to Live Without Self-Harm
© 2008 Pandora’s Aquarium By: Katy Most survivors who self-harm, at some point, ask the question “How do I learn to not SI?”. This discussion attempts make some suggestions that may assist you when moving away from self-harming behavior, although the use of a therapist during this time is strongly recommended. How can I prepare myself to stop...
“When you first begin dealing with sexual violence, it is like you’ve been...”
– Shannon L. (From Sexual Violence & Grief)
“Promise me you’ll always remember: You’re braver than you believe,...”
– A.A. Milne
I want to be able to lie in my death bed at 90...
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“To live is the rarest thing in the world. Most people exist, that is all.”
– Oscar Wilde (via thenocturnals)
My dashboard is dead. Reblog if you are a self...
“”Take the first step in faith. You don’t have to see the whole...”
– ~ Martin Luther King, Jr. ~
“Through humor, you can soften some of the worst blows that life delivers. And...”
– Bill Cosby (via messy-victory)
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“Here I am, a bundle of past recollections and future dreams, knotted up in a...”
– Sylvia Plath (via aneuromess)
“I have never measured success by how much money you have or how good of a job...”
– Me—2006
A Recovery Bill of Rights for Trauma Survivors
A Recovery Bill of Rights for Trauma Survivors
Copyright © 1995 by: Thomas V. Maguire, Ph.D. 191 King Street, Chappaqua, NY 10514. tmaguire@pipeline.com All rights reserved, except that permission is hereby granted to freely reproduce and distribute this document, provided that it is reproduced unaltered in its entirety and distributed free of charge.
As a Matter of Personal AUTHORITY, You...
COMMON RESPONSES TO TRAUMA – AND COPING STRATEGIES
COMMON RESPONSES TO TRAUMA – AND COPING STRATEGIES
© 1989, 2001, 2003 Patti Levin, LICSW, PsyD
After a trauma, people may go though a wide range of normal responses. Such reactions may be experienced not only by people who experienced the trauma first-hand, but by those who have witnessed or heard about the trauma, or been involved with those immediately affected. Many reactions can be...
Accepting our Broken Bits: Never “Over It” But...
Accepting our Broken Bits: Never “Over It” But Still Healing
By: Louise © 2011 Pandora’s Project
For reasons that will become obvious further on, the title of this article is a nod to the wonderful Shy Keenan, activist and survivor of horrific child sexual and other abuse.
This article is also dedicated to Susan with love and thanks.
Introduction
This article is for all who carry the...
The Problem with the Belief that Child Sexual...
The Problem with the Belief that Child Sexual Abuse Causes Homosexuality / Bisexuality
By Katy (© Pandora’s Project, 2009) There is an assumption among some people that the reason people become homosexual or bisexual is because of trauma resulting from sexual abuse in childhood. Understandably, the majority of LGBT people, when coming to terms with their sexual orientation or trying to...
“Turn your wounds into wisdom.”
– Oprah Winfrey
Relapsing After Quitting Self-Harm
Relapsing
After Quitting Self-Harm
© 2009 Pandora’s Aquarium By: Katy You made the courageous decision to stop self-harming and even managed a certain amount of time without needing to self-harm. You feel you’re making progress, and that you have left self-harm in the past. “Never again” you’ve told yourself. And then, out of nowhere, the urge to self-harm returns -...
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Flashbacks
Flashbacks - What are they? Many of those who are survivors of any form of sexual violence experience flashbacks at one time or another. Flashbacks are temporary states of remembering something painful or traumatic which has been hidden for quite some time in the subconscious mind and during a flashback, you may feel as though aspects of the rape or sexual assault are actually happening to you...
“To succeed, we must first believe that we can.”
– Michael Korda
“Destiny is not a matter of chance, it is a matter of choice. It is not a thing...”
– William Jennings Bryan
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“No one saves us but ourselves. No one can and no one may. We ourselves must walk...”
– Buddha
“Nothing is so strong as gentleness, and nothing is so gentle as real strength.”
– Criminal Minds
Self Harm
We see a closer resemblance of self mutilation to drug use, sex, alcohol, etc. as all being “gap fillers,” which means they are used to fill an emptiness with something comforting or soothing. There is yet another aspect that these behaviors share: Most people who cope by means of such actions blame their outside problems. This does hold some truththe person is responsible for his...
The Growing Wave of Teenage Self-Injury
“I feel relieved and less anxious after I cut. The emotional pain slowly slips away into the physical pain.”
“It’s a way to have control over my body because I can’t control anything else in my life.”
“It expresses emotional pain or feelings that I’m unable to put into words.”
“I usually feel like I have a black hole in the pit of my stomach. At least if I feel pain it’s better than...
Self Injury Facts
Self Injury Facts
By LifeSIGNS
Self injury is any deliberate, non suicidal behaviour that inflicts physical harm on your body and is aimed at relieving emotional distress. Physical pain is often easier to deal with than emotional pain, because it causes ‘real’ feelings. Injuries can prove to an individual that their emotional pain is real and valid. Self injurious behaviour may calm...
Living with Self Injury
Living with Self Injury
By LifeSIGNS
This section is for people who self injure.
SCARS - Often people will ask quite innocently ‘what happened to your arm?’ This may immediately put you on the defensive, as it is difficult to answer. We would suggest that you only show your cuts/scars if you feel comfortable answering questions about them, yes you may feel it is none of anyone...
