1. Recognise that it’s a feeling – and our moods go up and down. Shrug your shoulders, grit your teeth and choose to make it through the day. Nothing’s really wrong – and there is nothing wrong with you. It’s just the way you’re feeling – and our feelings usually change.

2. Don’t be hard and…

The people who believe they’ll be happy if they go and live somewhere else … learn it doesn’t work that way. Wherever you go, you take yourself with you.
Neil Gaiman (via onlinecounsellingcollege)

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Traumatic events, by definition, overwhelm our ability to cope. When the mind becomes flooded with emotion, a circuit breaker is thrown that allows us to survive the experience fairly intact, that is, without becoming psychotic or frying out one of the brain centers. The cost of this blown circuit is emotion frozen within the body. In other words, we often unconsciously stop feeling our trauma partway into it, like a movie that is still going after the sound has been turned off. We cannot heal until we move fully through that trauma, including all the feelings of the event.
Susan Pease Banitt, The Trauma Tool Kit: Healing PTSD from the Inside Out (via its-kneedeep)
London Researchers Find “Functional Brain Differences” in Those Who Self-Harm

A study by researchers in London has found there are functional brain differences between people who deliberately self-harm, and those who don’t.

The team from Lawson Health Research Institute used MRI scans to compare pain/reward-processing of neurocircuitry of the brain, and discovered distinct differences.

The brains of those who engage in self-harm, or non-suicidal self-injury (NSSI), reacted in an unusual fashion after volunteer test subjects were exposed to painfully cold ice water on their forearms.

“Our study showed that pain/reward processing neurocircuitry is abnormal in NSSI patients compared with non-NSSI patients,” said Dr. Elizabeth Osuch, a Lawson scientist.

“NSSI patients feel extreme relief during the painful stimulus to the extent that it feels rewarding. Non-NSSI subjects do not experience the same pain as relief or as a reward.” she said.

Analysis of the brain scans showed reduced functional connectivity between the parts of the brain that experience emotion, and those that regulate emotion in the NSSI patients.

“We know that the part of the brain that processes pain is fundamentally difference in these patients. We don’t know if this change occurs at birth or over time. However, by better understanding the functional brain correlates of this behaviour, it means treatment possibilities increase through medication or other therapies,” said Dr. Osuch.

“There are lots of misconceptions about people who hurt or cut themselves, so proving the correlation of functional brain differences in NSSI vs non-NSSI patients shows the reason behind the cutting. It’s not necessarily about NSSI patients manipulating others through their self-injury acts; it’s their brains reacting differently to the painful stimulus. One of the beneficial ‘side effects’ of brain imaging studies is to destigmatize these behaviours and takes them out of the unknown and misunderstood.” she said.

Research conducted in Canada, the United States, and select countries throughout Europe are reporting consistent rates of self-injury within populations of adolescents of around 20 to 23 percent.

While much of the research suggests that the age of onset for self-injury is typically around 13 or 14 years, many young college students, ages 18 to 19 years have also been found to report engaging in self-injury for the first time.

Can You Absolutely See the Warning Signs of Depression


I just got back for my first therapy at Charlotte Behavioral Health Care in Punta Gorda.  I got sent home with a few work sheets and at the top of one was titled “Warning Signs of Depression." I thought, hey that would be a great update of my 2008 Mental Health Humor cartoon titled "Signs of Depression” (see post: Top 5 Things To Do If You THINK You’re Depressed (Cartoons)) see toon:
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When I’m asked about my depression, I normally make a joke and say it’s depressing. I use humor to deflect the truth because I seriously doubt anyone would want to sit for a few hours and listen to me ramble on…of the hopeless void of pitiful joy-sucking-emotion-draining-worthless-despair I feel over having burnt toast with my scrambled eggs… It’s SO depressing!
If you are lucky and have a friend that will listen, you will find talking helps…even if you think it’s the burnt toast that is making you depressed…when, in reality, it may be something more clinical. The toast may have been a trigger or one of many “Signs Of Depression“ that together may warn of a looming relapse or a warning sign of depressive episode ahead. (You need a professional to determine a diagnosis.)
 Warning Signs Of Depression
Mood Symptoms

* Depressed Mood
* irritability
* loss of love/interest in activities
* Social withdrawal: not calling friend or family, missing work - isolating
* E-social withdrawal Facebook /Twitter / social network update/ text:  accounts deleted or  not updated or negative updates with suicidal terminology
* Preoccupation with death/ Suicidal thinking
* Sadness and crying

Physical Symptoms

* No energy - lethargic - apathetic
* Need for Sleeping - more or less Sleep is one common connection with depression. Many dealing with clinical depression have expressed no need for sleep, the lacking desire to get out of bed.  I know this is true for me.
* Increased or decreased appetite
* Increased or decreased weight
* Lose tract of time, and tend to slow down movement - perpetual-slow-motion
* lack of sexual desire or gratification
* Physical aches and pains have been noted by many and/or inflammation of co-existing issues.

Cognitive Symptoms

* Worthlessness, Self-hate
* Guilt
* Despair and Hopelessness
* Distracted can focus
* Lazy brained

10 Incredible Quotations About The Power Of Your Thoughts

You have power over your mind – not outside events. Realize this, and you will find strength.

— Marcus Aurelius

Man’s mind is his very essence. Wherever your thoughts are, that is where you are – all of you.

— Rebbe Nachman of Breslov

What we achieve inwardly will change outer reality.

— Plutarch

Guard your thoughts very carefully, because thought can literally create a living thing.

— Rebbe Nachman of Breslov

Change your thoughts and you change your world.

— Norman Vincent Peale

Once you replace negative thoughts with positive ones, you’ll start having positive results.

— Willie Nelson

The truth is that stress doesn’t come from your boss, your kids, your spouse, traffic jams, health challenges, or other circumstances. It comes from your thoughts about these circumstances.

— Andrew Bernstein

Think good and it will be good.

— Yiddish saying

The soul becomes dyed with the color of its thoughts.

— Marcus Aurelius

Except our own thoughts, there is nothing absolutely in our power.

— Rene Descartes

The past should be left in the past because it can destroy your future. Live your life for what tomorrow has to offer, not for what yesterday has taken away.
Posts of Wisdom (via onlinecounsellingcollege)